I am proud for my children’s successes, achievements or good example.
I support my children’s dreams, hopes and happiness.
I encourage my children and other young persons to be better than my best.
Many parents feel resentful when their offspring shine where they never could, achieve what they never dared, and aspire to be what they never even conceived of being. Many parents feel threatened by their child’s good looks, popularity, and healthy self-esteem. When a child flourishes in an aspect of their life that a parent feels insecure about in theirs, the potential for rivalry, control issues, and emotional abuse arises. Many insecure adults relate to their children with an air of competition. If there must be any competition between parent and child it should either be in good fun or in order for the child to learn to succeed and surpass their parent competitor.
The spiritual reality of the parent-child relationship is this– children are supposed to become better humans than their parents. Every generation should be better at being human than the previous. Such is the essence of evolution. Everything that a parent models is intended to offer their child a chance to become more loving and more successful in life. As parents it is our responsibility to encourage our children to be better than we are… in every way. And when they are, we need not be threatened. We can smile and know we have done our job well. If our children are more successful, more compassionate, more creative, more authentic, more courageous, more independent, more secure, smarter, stronger and happier than we have ever been, we can be very proud.