The Allowing Point

Day 97

Affirmation:

There is no limit to the amount of love that I give to myself.

There is no limit to the amount of love that I am willing to receive.

I give myself compliments, kindness and consideration without limits.

I accept compliments, kindness and consideration without limits.

I give myself only positive and healthy emotional, verbal and physical treatment.

I accept only positive and healthy emotional, verbal and physical treatment from others.

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No one can or will receive more than they are willing to give to themselves.   This is true whether we are talking about a positive offering or a negative one.   I call the point we will not receive beyond our allowing point.  We will accept  in measures equal to or less than what we give ourselves, but once what is offered exceeds our allowing point, we will stop accepting.  One can not accept more love from another than they give to themselves.  If the amount of love one is being offered exceeds their allowing point, they will become frightened or overwhelmed and probably sabotage the relationship.   In the same way, no one will accept more pain or abuse from another than they give to themselves.  If the amount of abuse being offered exceeds the allowing point, then one will usually walk away, but rarely before.  By paying attention and asking ourselves a few simple questions we can gain some insight into where our allowing points are set…

Do I accept compliments well?  Am I comfortable receiving gifts?  Am I only attracted to bad boy or girl types?  How much abuse or lack of consideration do I allow from others before saying enough is enough? Do I mistreat or abuse myself verbally, emotionally or physically?

By looking at how we receive or reject what others offer us, we gain insight into our own ability to both love and loathe ourselves.   Imagine what a world it would be if everyone had an allowing point for positive set at infinity, and for negative, set to zero!   We can dream…We can try!