I give gifts freely, without strings attached.
Once I give a gift I let go completely.
What someone does with a gift I give is none of my business.
A true gift is the one given without the giver attached to it. If we give someone a vase and do so expecting they will fill and display it, we are attaching ourselves and our expectations to the gift. Under those circumstances we are not truly giving; we are sharing. A true gift has no such strings. It is not given with any expectation of being used, worn, displayed, or eaten. There may hope, but no expectation, and certainly no disappointment if it is not. A true gift originates in the desire to give, not in the desire to see one’s self or worth reflected in that gift’s use.