I am the one living my life.
I am the author of my story.
I live this life in the direction of my dreams.
I live my life according to my hopes and aspirations.
From the time we were born, well-intended adults attached their hopes, dreams, ambitions, and aspirations to our lives, hoping they’d someday become our reality. We might have heard things like, “I dream that one day you will…” or, “We have planned that when you are old enough you will…” Perhaps we grew up hearing what sort of mate we should look for or which job we should – or should not – pursue. Sometimes the process is more subtle. As children we’re often introduced to activities by those same well-intended adults who have great expectations of our loving, thriving, and devoting ourselves to their interests. Our inheritance may be our parents unfulfilled dreams or their desire to achieve through our successes. Because this happens when we’re very young, it’s usually assimilated without question and becomes unconscious programming. Without our awareness – or permission – we begin living our lives from the scripts others have written for us. We will be mommies. We will go to college. We will marry pretty girls. We will become the first person in the family to own a home, get a Doctorate, win the Heisman, stay married, record a song, etc., etc., etc.
When our life’s work, our education goals, our hobbies, interests and our dreams are more in alignment with another’s desires than our own…
When we’re striving to fulfill the hopes and aspirations others have for us…
When we’re trying to live up to other’s expectations of us…
…we are not authoring our own lives. We have settled for letting someone ghost write our lives for us.
It’s never too late to take back our lives, write our own scripts and live our own dreams. These are our lives we are experiencing and we are the only ones who should be living their lives through us.