Posted in Authenticity and Empowerment, tagged 365 Days of Inspiration, Authenticity and Empowerment, choosing happiness, choosing our responses, conscious emotions, daily affirmations, emotional responses, emotional responsibility, happiness is a choice, tagged better-feeling on May 17, 2015|
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My emotions are a response to my experiences.
How I respond to my experiences is my choice.
I alone am responsible for my emotions.
I live in conscious awareness of my emotions.
I choose how I feel.
I am emotionally responsible.
Happiness – and its counterpart, unhappiness – are the result of an interpretation of an experience. Every experience we have is interpreted by our minds (often unconsciously) as either positive, negative, or neutral and our emotional response is the result of that interpretation. Our emotions are subjective and personal. What makes one person happy (being in the woods, for example) might make another feel frightened. How the experience is interpreted is up to the experiencer. And it is a choice. How do we know it is a choice? Because we can program our reactions to experiences. The person who is fearful of being in the woods can consciously choose to overcome that fear and feel at peace instead. Others in our world contribute to our experiences, offering us opportunities to choose our interpretation and our emotional response, but they are not the cause of our emotions.
While we can not always choose our experiences, we can choose how we react to them. And we can change old habitual patterns of response that may no longer serve us into healthier, better-feeling ones. When we do, we become emotionally responsible, empowering ourselves with our own emotional well-being.
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Posted in Authenticity and Empowerment, tagged anxiousness, embrace feelings, emotional responses, emotions, face your feelings, honouring feelings, invalidating feelings, life experiences, no basis in reality, validating our emotions, validating our feelings on August 19, 2011|
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In order to live consciously, I must be aware of and acknowledge my feelings.
I do not invalidate or deny my feelings.
I do not allow others to invalidate my feelings.
I embrace and honour my feelings.
Our feelings are an emotional response to life experiences. Sometimes those feelings make sense and seem logical, such as feeling anxious before an exam. When we’re comfortable with our feelings or they seem appropriate, we validate them with acknowledgement, “I’m really nervous about this big test.” But sometimes our feelings seem illogical or make us uncomfortable and those we tend to dismiss or deny- “I’m being silly, there’s no reason to (worry/fear/be jealous/etc.)” There may truly be no reason to worry or be in fear, but that does not change the fact that the feeling exists. Feelings, even those that have no basis in reality, must be acknowledged and honoured. If they are not, they will only persist and expand. And when we deny and dismiss our feelings, we invalidate ourselves. We send the message to ourselves that we are wrong, silly, stupid, weak, faulty, or bad. When we acknowledge and accept our feelings- all of them – we embrace and validate our selves and our authenticity. By accepting and embracing our feelings, we also give ourselves an opportunity to evaluate them and see them more objectively, creating pathways to other, perhaps more appropriate or more positive feelings. When it comes to our feelings, we can not say goodbye to something we have never said hello to.
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