Posted in Authenticity and Empowerment, tagged anxiousness, embrace feelings, emotional responses, emotions, face your feelings, honouring feelings, invalidating feelings, life experiences, no basis in reality, validating our emotions, validating our feelings on August 19, 2011|
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In order to live consciously, I must be aware of and acknowledge my feelings.
I do not invalidate or deny my feelings.
I do not allow others to invalidate my feelings.
I embrace and honour my feelings.
Our feelings are an emotional response to life experiences. Sometimes those feelings make sense and seem logical, such as feeling anxious before an exam. When we’re comfortable with our feelings or they seem appropriate, we validate them with acknowledgement, “I’m really nervous about this big test.” But sometimes our feelings seem illogical or make us uncomfortable and those we tend to dismiss or deny- “I’m being silly, there’s no reason to (worry/fear/be jealous/etc.)” There may truly be no reason to worry or be in fear, but that does not change the fact that the feeling exists. Feelings, even those that have no basis in reality, must be acknowledged and honoured. If they are not, they will only persist and expand. And when we deny and dismiss our feelings, we invalidate ourselves. We send the message to ourselves that we are wrong, silly, stupid, weak, faulty, or bad. When we acknowledge and accept our feelings- all of them – we embrace and validate our selves and our authenticity. By accepting and embracing our feelings, we also give ourselves an opportunity to evaluate them and see them more objectively, creating pathways to other, perhaps more appropriate or more positive feelings. When it comes to our feelings, we can not say goodbye to something we have never said hello to.
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Posted in Authenticity and Empowerment, Faith, Living Now, Love and Relationship, Surrender, tagged choice, closed heart, connection to life, consciousness, courage to love, damned up heart, daring to love, flight or fight, free heart, let love flow, one with Source, open heart, relationship, Source, surrender to love on August 12, 2011|
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(Recommended companion reading for this affirmation)
Today I will allow the river of my heart to flow freely to its Source and to others as part of our interconnectedness.
The heart is like a river. When closed it can be likened to the river that has had its flow unnaturally impeded by a dam. When the heart is open it compares to a river flowing freely as part of a larger system, connected to other rivers, streams, and tributaries. A freely flowing river also has the potential to be directly connected to its source, the ocean. The human heart and its energies connect each person to every other living thing, seen and unseen, and to the energy of Creation itself, our Source. The challenge is to keep the heart open and flowing. Every human is born with their hearts wide open, freely receiving and giving of love. One look in a the eyes of a contented baby and you can see it. Their little sighs tell you that they are awash in the energy of love. As we grow we experience woundedness, betrayals of trust, and other’s fear given to us in the guise of love. It’s those experiences that create the shutdown of our hearts. In order to protect our emotional selves we dam up. We withhold love until a recipient is proven worthy. We revoke love the moment we feel threatened in a relationship. The ego responds to the threat in the same way the endochrine system responds to a physical threat, and the result is flight or fight. In the case of the heart, we all too often choose flight. But therein lies the key, we choose. It may well be an unconscious choice but it is a choice, one most of us are asked to make at some point in our lives. Daring to let love flow freely, both to and from the heart, takes courage, but without surrender, we remain like the damned river, our hearts closed off and unable to feel the connection to life, others, or our Source.
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